Girl child – a blessing!
How amusing is a wee girl’s life! Her little heart fraught with teeny weeny things would always deluge in love and kindness. Even a big, humiliating quarrel would not last long in her sweet little heart, which is already irresistible to trifling grieves. Daughters are not like sons, who easily sheer away to the world of coteries. Her heart always retains a contiguous affinity towards her mom and dad. That fondling and longing would never vanish despite of getting fledged.
“I have got only boy tots. I had badly longed for a daughter. Even now, I am hankering and waiting for her. Sons usually tend to recede from us as they surpass boyhood. You may not get to cuddle or kiss them. But daughters aren’t like that; they would always be little munchkins. Even after stepping into married life, she still would be there, by fondling and dangling on her dad’s shoulder. “
These words from a friend, inspired me to ponder upon a girl child. We all relish the solace of womanhood through a darling daughter, or a loving younger sister, or a caring elder sister, or a romantic life partner or an affectionate mother. The hearty emotions that the Most Benevolent, The Merciful Lord, has obscured in her, serve as a curing medicine for all mental obsessions. With a single smile, she could be an enormous solace.
Islam has immensely respected the solace aka Women. The ‘buried infant’ (of Jahiliyya or Pre-Mohammed SAW Arabia) has been uplifted with the ‘right of inheritance’, by this religion. The Prophet (PBUH), who advised “go slowly, she is a crystal pot”, to the Sahaba who was trotting on a camel along with his daughter, is the greatest liberator of women ever in the history.
Islam uplifted her by yielding rights and responsibilities; praised that the anchor of glory is not birth but obligation; accorded the freedom of opinion and accolade; brought her forward into the mainstream society and thus rebuked such Arabian minds who surmised girl child as a bane: “When news is brought to one of them, of (the birth of) a female (child), his face darkens, and he is filled with inward grief! With shame does he hide himself from his people, because of the bad news he has had! Shall he retain it on (sufferance and) contempt, or bury it in the dust? “ (Quran 16: 58,59)
Through scathing locutions Almighty Allah restrained such a savagery, and admonished them “And when the girl-child that was buried alive is asked, for what sin she was slain!” (Quran: 81: 8,9)
This luxury enslaved modern era, too, is treating female child as a menace. Usilampatty Taluk, of Tamilnadu, India, is known to be endemic in female infanticide, where husband orders his wife, who gave birth a baby girl “go ahead and snuff her out“! As per the figures by Medical Association of India, five million infant girls have been slain, being victims of foeticide.
It is evident from Prophet’s (PBUH) sayings that a daughter is bestowed as a path to eternal success for both mom and dad. Moreover, he exhorted that the attitude towards her, her upbringing and tutelage must be done with due assiduity and vigilance. The affection and affinity Prophet (PBUH) had poured upon his darling daughter Fathima (RA) and Ayesha (RA), who entered in marital life with Prophet in her early teenage, has been a sublime guideline for parents of all times. Prophet (PBUH) adored both the tenderhearted women with due assiduity, yet with a plethora of affection. He fostered Ayesha (RA)’s lust for knowledge. 2210 hadeeth’s had been narrated by Ayesha (RA).
Allah’s Messenger (PBUH) incited: ‘Whoever had a daughter born to him, and he did not bury her alive or humiliate her, and he did not prefer his son over her, Allah (Subhanahu wa ta’ala) will admit him to Paradise because of her.” (Abu Dawud)
“Whoever has three daughters, and shelters them, bearing their joys and sorrows with patience, Allah (Subhanahu wa ta’ala) will admit him to Paradise by virtue of his compassion towards them.” A man asked, “What if he has only two, O Messenger of Allah?” He said, “Even if they are only two.” Another man asked, “What if he has only one, O Messenger of Allah?” He said, “Even if he has only one.” (Mishkath)
Prophet (PBUH), also told: “Whoever is tested with daughters and treats them well, they will be for him a shield against the Fire of Hell.” (Bukhari Muslim)
Being a naive presence of fondness and amity, and being a fresh spring that carries the tenderness of a rose petal, let every wee girl be the purity of her dwelling. Through wiggling, wrangling and singing, may she make this life amazing. May those dew sparkling eyes never bedew with tears. Our little daughters are the lovely gifts from The Merciful Lord. With deluging affection and pamperings, darn nests for them.