Let the SMILES shine!
Pleasantness is the adornment of personality. Only those with a virtuous heart can own an ever-smiling face. And only those who have cleared the weeds of pride from within will be able to face others pleasantly. Such are the people who can preserve a splendor of liveliness throughout their life. That’s why Prophet (PBUH) taught SMILE as the symbol of a Muslim.
Prophet Ibrahim (AS) had supplicated to include him among those who return to Allah with a sound heart (Qalbun Saleem) devoid of tarnishes and stains. (Quran 26:89). Purity and tranquility of heart is the symbol of a Mu’min (believer) and is the secret behind a pleasant face.
Do we often fail to perceive the psychological benefit of a SMILE? Our Beloved Prophet (PBUH) had perceived the meaning underlying a simple SMILE and the revolutions that can bring forth.
We have much to learn from the incident how messenger of Allah welcomed the young man who came in seeking permission to commit adultery. People gathered around and rebuked the young man. Prophet (PBUH) did not scold him neither did he yell at him, instead, he approached the young man politely and in a pleasing way. Prophet (PBUH) hugged him and sat next to him. Afterwards, Prophet (PBUH) advised him in a soft and loving voice. What a big change this could bring in that companion! A pleasant advice from Prophet (PBUH) turns his intense passion, adultery, to his loathing hatred (A hadith mentioned in Musnad Ahmad Bin Hanbal). What would have been the case if Prophet had welcomed him angrily with admonitions? There are umpteen beautiful feathers similar to this in the life of our Prophet (PBUH).
Pride is the symbol of mean people. Such people will be yearning to stay high and exalted from others due to some materialistic achievements. Those who own a pure mind and a heart filled with intellectual musings will always be humble notwithstanding the high status, knowledge and money they own above others. Alike the branch of a tree, which hangs lower due to the weight of fruits it bears; a wise man would be humble and pleasant. Prophet taught that “He who as in his heart the weight of a mustard seed of pride shall not enter Paradise…” (Muslim Book 2, Hadith 277, Arabic) ‘Miskaalu Dar’ ( مِثْقَالُ ذَرَّةٍ ) is the Arabic word that has been used while describing this. Scholars have described the meaning of Miskaalu Darr as “a piece from an ant’s leg” OR “a grit shimmering in the blazing hot sun”…That means, even if Pride is residing in such a minor quantity, that person won’t enter paradise. Paradise is the abode of humble servants of Allah, the Almighty.
Prophet has exhorted us to supplicate such that we will not be entangled by pride and quest for fame. This indicates how severe the poison of pride could be. Face reflects one’s heart. Smiling lips will always be beautiful and charming. “Do not belittle any good deed, even meeting your brother with a cheerful face” (Muslim Book 1, Hadith 121)- Prophet (PBUH) advised. We can see in a hadith…A smile to your brother is Charity” (Fiqh-us-Sunnah, Volume 3, Page Number 98)
The Wasiyya (will) of Luqmanul Hakeem goes like this: And do not turn your cheek [in contempt] towards people and do not walk through the earth exultantly. Indeed, Allah does not like everyone self-deluded and boastful. (31/18) The advice continues like this: “And be moderate in your pace and lower your voice; indeed, the most disagreeable of sounds is the voice of donkeys.” (31/19)
In Surah Furqn, the first quality of Ibaadu Rahman (Servants of Allah) is described as “And the servants of the Most Merciful are those who walk upon the earth easily, and when the ignorant address them [harshly], they say [words of] peace” [Qur'an Chapter 25, Verse 63]. This teaches us that the very first quality of a Muslim is ‘humility’.
By befriending humility and humbleness no one loses anything, but it begets eminence. Those who humble themselves will be exalted by Allah, the Lord. Those who exalt themselves will be humbled by Allah.
Smile will blossom on such peoples’ faces who can accept others amiably. It’s when we realize that others too have their-own unique personality and greatness; we would be saved from the engrossment of pride and arrogance. We are meant to live a noble life - being humble and lowered even in the midst of admiring crowd, and taking the roads of simplicity – by refraining ourselves from the abyss of prejudices, entanglement of annihilating thoughts and from the weeds of pride..
A SMILE shining on our lips can open up the ways to greatness. Haven’t you heard this saying: “A smile costs nothing, but it gives much”!