Feel Ramadan – Don’t get angry!
Soorya Krishnamoorthy, a south Indian writer narrates a story of a father and a son in his autobiography “Murivukal”(“Wounds”). Both of them loved each other and they never wanted to be separated even for a short period. They used to roam around like friends. The father was an ill-tempered person and used to behave rudely to his son when he gets angry. One day, he bought a new car. After driving the car for the first time to their home, father decided to take his son for a ride in the car. Meanwhile, the son scribbled something on the car, with an iron rod. The father got angry and brutally clobbered the son. Later, he realized that his son’s fingers are broken as a result of his beating. He took the son to a doctor, but no avail. Doctors affirmed that his fingers will never go back to normal. He wept bitterly thinking about his son. It is when he entered the car to cry in loneliness, he noticed what his son has written with the iron rod. He had written ‘I love my Pappa’.
This is what happens if we fail to bridle our temper. With a wise contemplation for a moment, anybody can easily subjugate the flames of anger. Nevertheless, many times we fail to do so. Sometimes, the outrage of a moment would be making lethal wounds.
Only when we attain self control, our lives and minds will flourish with virtues. Prophet (May Peace and Blessings of Allah be upon Him) was always been able to attain self control, even at those worst moments that would make anyone outrage, and thus his life is always exemplary.
When his beloved wife, Ayesha (RA), hurled a bowl with his favorite dish in anger, he was able to smile at her, sit down and gather all broken pieces from the floor, thus brought tears of regret in Ayesha (RA). That response from Prophet (PBUH), indeed is an exemplary lesson of patience and wisdom, for the people of all ages. His vast heart showed the willingness to love even his enemies dearly. He taught us that with anger no one will achieve anything but with compromise and love, we will. Anas (RA), who spent nearly 14 years with Prophet like a shadow said “Prophet never got angry with me”…
Ramadan is the best school to learn self-resistance. In Sural Al- Imran, Qur’an says about pious people:
“Who spend [in the cause of Allah ] during ease and hardship and who restrain anger and who pardon the people – and Allah loves the doers of good;” (3:134)
English rendering of article written by Abdul Wadud